Test Your Skills:
The "Lewis Approach" Challenge Answers

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Situation 1

The correct answer is C, or "Tell me why you are saying that." You are instructing your spouse, in a non-confrontational way, to tell you more about what their issue is. This allows you to get more information from them and to be able to make a clear decision on how you want to proceed. This technique particularly helps to prevent arguments.

Situation 2

The correct answer is A, or "I understand what you are saying. But accept what I want. Go along and come with me to dinner. I’d really appreciate that." Your understanding lets the person know you heard what they said. This will allow them to be more open to your point.

You then tell them to accept what you want, a clear message but not in a criticizing manner. Then, you tell them clearly what to do for you, "Come with me to dinner." This clear instructional message will make it easier for them to go along with you. By saying "I’d really appreciate that" lets them know they will be a success with you by going along and making you happy. People like making others happy.

Situation 3

The correct answer is B, or "No, don’t say that. Don’t think about harming me. Be nice to me and tell me what made you say what you said." You immediately and clearly tell the person what to do for you. You tell them to not harm you. This is very important and will help keep you safe. You then tell the person to be nice to you, which reinforces to them to not harm you. It also taps into the person’s self-created guilt, which reduces their aggressive drive (no one really wants to harm anyone, they only want their needs met). Then, you instruct the person to tell you more about what they told you. It allows you to more objectively hear what the person’s issue is and then make a decision on how you want to proceed.

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